Have you ever wondered how we can become so disempowered as patients?

I guess it all depends on how we view our role in the healing relationship, doesn’t it?. Are we doing the healing and engaging others to help us? Or do we want someone else to fix us, abdicating our responsibility in the whole process?

When I was in the throws of cancer I went looking for an oncologist that was open to an integrative approach. Traditional, alternate, complementary, trial or cutting edge, I needed a doctor who was willing to explore them all, without bias. And I kept looking until I found one. Persistence has its rewards doesn’t it?! When I questioned him about using vitamins during chemo he responded by saying he felt they were a necessity. When I asked about radical approaches, he listened with an open mind. ‘We can only learn when we explore new ideas’ he said. And yet I’ve heard other horror stories of doctors who refuse to let their patients combine therapies despite research showing better outcomes. But surely it’s our decision. After all, whose body is this anyway?

Isn’t it interesting how we learn to label things right and wrong, black and white, good and bad. And yet we could always find someone to sit on either side of the fence. When something is right for one person, it may be wrong for someone else. It’s really all a matter of perspective isn’t it?! I remember the advice Petrea King (Quest for Life) gave me. In her wisdom she suggested I put every healing option on the table, make nothing wrong, and choose the ones that gave me the greatest peace. Her words carried me well and stopped the war and uncertainty within me. And I sense this could only have aided my healing.

And so I used copious quantities of vitamins, herbs, biofeedback, chiropractic care, physiotherapy, subconscious-mind therapy and kinesiology in conjunction with surgery, chemotherapy and radiation. I can’t deny it was full on, but, all in all, I had a great year. I studied, I worked, I mothered, I travelled and I smiled. Sure there were darker days, but I built a buffer around me and it seemed to make my path that much easier to travel.

And I delighted in listening to psychiatrist, Professor Graham Martin’s interview on ABC radio national: Taking charge: mind, body and recovery. After sudden paralysis in 2009, the doctor became the patient and discovered how we must all take charge of our own recovery, doing whatever we need to do to heal. It’s empowering stuff!

United we stand, divided we fall – surely the experience of cancer is not the time for a war between healing modalities…

 http://www.abc.net.au/radionational/programs/allinthemind/taking-charge-mind-body-and-recovery/2928194

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